Once upon a time we knew what day it was. We had to know so that we were prepared for school that day. In elementary school, if it was Monday or Wednesday, we had to wear shorts and sneakers because we had gym. If it was Thursday, we had to wear a white shirt or blouse and dark skirt or pants for assembly, and after school we had to study for our weekly Friday spelling test. In high school, we had to be prepared for the classes we had that day because each day was different. Same with college. Then we went to work. In some jobs, different days, different schedule.
Retirement is another creature. Yes, there are scheduled appointments (usually doctors), invitations (weddings, parties), and other planned events (dinner with friends). But most days, most of us have empty calendars. No need to set our alarm clocks (remember them?). No need to hurry. We can have a leisurely breakfast and enjoy a second cup of coffee while doing the daily crossword puzzle. Do grocery shopping on weekdays and avoid the crowds.
When I reached that point in my life when the days stretched out before me, I asked myself two questions: Is this what I worked 30 years for? And: Do I want to do this for the rest of my life? When I couldn’t answer a resounding yes to either of these questions, I explored alternatives.
Possibility 1: Go back to work (no thank you).
Possibility 2: Travel (the occasional trip, ok).
Possibility 3: Hobbies (reading, knitting, mah-jongg, not enough).
And then I stumbled upon a new concept (at least, to me): a Life Plan Community. Upon researching this lifestyle and senior living Long Island options, I visited one and was able to imagine myself living there There would be lots of activities offered, from fitness classes to movies to games and trips. Any repairs required in my residence would be handled by the maintenance team. There would be a gym, indoor pool, art studio and salon. And dinner in the on-site restaurant would be included in my monthly rent. I was hooked!
Fast forward seven years. I moved to this Long Island retirement community three years ago. Now, when I ask myself those two big questions, I can wholeheartedly answer Yes and Yes!
I’d tell you more, but I’m very busy. I have to go to my morning exercise class in the clubhouse, after which I’ll enjoy breakfast in the Bistro with my neighbors. Then there’s the art class, followed by a lecture, a game of trivia, dinner, and a movie in the theater.
And, by the way, I still don’t know what day it is (except for Sunday, when we enjoy brunch), but when I look at the calendar of events, I don’t care!
Author Bonnie Soman is the retired Clinical Director of the Speech and Hearing Center at Adelphi University, now a member of Fountaingate Gardens Independent Living Community in Commack, Long Island. 631-715-2693;
